Expectations, the motivation killer?

I don’t know if it usually happens to me or it’s something experienced by other people but things done on dire preparations tend to be a little boring. Take for example, a photo captured out of pure unknowing tells more of the story than that caught out of an aware pose. An outdoor activity tends to be more fun if done without prior preparations than that done out a fully packed suit. A surprise date tends to be more interesting than that which is planned. 

My thought is that, an unplanned, out of the office activity tends to be more interesting due to the various number of probable outcomes to be expected. There isn’t much expectations that can make you feel disappointed if they don’t come to be or happen for that instance. A date gone wrong tends to be called so due to that ‘bad’ unexpectected factor that came to play that wasn’t in one’s plan.

Ever planned an event and mailed your friends a date you’re to meet up. Then come that day and while your friends are all happy and cheerful ,you seem to be a little dull? Turns our that your brain is usually stimulated in a stream of thoughts…what’s now?, next?, or after?,…that tend to make you overthink. Like…how interesting will they find my event?…how much will they like my food?…how will they rate this compared to other events we’ve attended? One small disapproval may leave your positive expectations spiraling down to a fall. 

The reason why some relationships don’t last is because of expectations having being placed there in the first place. The reason you’ll find a BlackBerry boring to you is because you expected it to perform like an iPhone. The reason you keep deleting your selfie photo claiming it’s not all nice it because you expected it to look better. The reason you find your brand new Toyota all boring is because you expected it to perform like a Subaru Impreza WRX. 

All am trying to say, the more the expectations, the more the disappointments. If it’s not an official event, don’t raise your hopes to high. If you’re planning to do something, don’t overdo it. Don’t do it to please, but to enjoy. Let it flow ūüôā

The have not(s)…

Well, I’ve read a lot of some guidelines to have a happy life and most involve the do(s). They vary from interaction with others and some narrow down to a personal life. I came across a poster with some simplified guidelines which I find relatable. I talked mostly of the do not(s). I’ll share to how it was quoted:

 

  1. Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
  2. Never trouble another for what you can do yourself.
  3. Never spend your money before you have it.
  4. Never buy what you do not want just because it’s cheap.
  5. Never do anything against your will or desire.
  6. Never allow evil to push or pull you towards pain.
  7. Never speak or react when you’re angry.
  8. Never underestimate your opponent in your life activities.
  9. Never make a judgement from the first impression.
  10. Never make an assumption without a verification.

 

Hoping that, if not all, some of them will be relatable.

 

Cheers!

Kevin